When do you take the step to play your ‘bigger game’? – You know, the one free of the fears and habits that hold you back from what is really possible. For most people, it is a realisation that the current way you are doing things is not enough any more. Something drives us to see that things have to change if we are going to get a different- better- outcome.
Because they say the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different outcome. Whilst as we keep doing what we have always done, we will only get what we have always gotten.
The realisation that its time to play a new game often emerges because something happens- either something in you changes, or something external to you changes- and you realise that you are not in the bigger game any more.
- Perhaps it is the realisation that if you don’t change, you will be left behind.
- Perhaps it is the realisation that the world around you is changing, and there is an opportunity to adapt.
- Or perhaps it is just a realisation that you are capable of so much more.
It is easy to do what we have always done, used what we have already learned, to get us our usual outcomes. We develop habits of thought and behaviour and ‘go through the motions’. Even when there are clear signs that it is time to play a bigger game, we often find ways to defend our approach until there really is no other way. So if you find yourself denying, blaming, justifying, attacking or avoiding (the classic ways that we defend our positions)….then it may just be time. Time for you to consider what your bigger game may be.
Whilst this realisation is often the starting point, it is not enough to get the outcomes that you want. We need to change our approach, take actions and do things differently to reach a bigger game. We are only resilient within the bounds of our skills and strategies, and we do not know what we need to learn to play our bigger game until after we have learned it. Which means that even though we want to change, we don’t have the skills and strategies that are needed for us to shift up to our next level.
If we have the realisation that it is time for a bigger game, then taking action is the next step. We often find it easier to avoid the uncertainty of taking this action by finding ways to defend our status quo. We have to be brave enough to stop defending the old way and adapt to something new. We can adapt through blind luck and chance ( the school of hard knocks), but often it is hard to see when we are stuck in our own stuff, and we can not be sure of what we have learned as we learn it.
Or we can get help, with a trusted external partner to help us adapt, keep us accountable, to coach and mentor us. We are all different, and as we seek external support, there is no ‘one magic formula’ for everyone. I find that through a mix of support processes such as coaching/mentoring, facilitation, training and consulting, a fully customised and specific adaptation approach can be taken with individuals, teams or organisations to help them play their bigger games.
Because it is not about doing the work for them, but about helping them speed up the adaptation to their circumstance to play a sustainable bigger game. The aim is to transfer the capabilities, unlock the potential, speed up the learning and adaptation so their bigger game becomes their new normal. Built on self-reliance and resilience, this sets the stage for sustainable change, and long term performance enhancements.
I will post a series of case studies over the next few weeks. Each of these is based on an organisation, team or individual having that realisation that there is so much more, that they have a bigger game to play. Either because they can, or because they have to. In each of these case studies, all anonymised to protect my clients, I will break down what made them realise it was time to play a bigger game, and the unique approach developed to help them get there.
I will also share some key learnings that you can take from the case to help you move forward on your journey. So stay tuned!
In the mean time:
- What realisations do you have about the way you are currently doing things?
- Do you find yourself defending your status quo (blame, deny, justify, attack or avoid?) What could your bigger game be?